Anonymous Asked: "Talk to someone. Right. Because people really care about me. I'm going on 21, no job, still live with my mom, and I told her my plan, I need someone to make sure people get their letters, and she shrugged. Fucking shrugged. So no. If the woman that gave birth to me doesn't care, then I highly doubt someone over the internet will. But thank you. You have been so much help in the past. I just have to do this. It'll make the world so much better."

Answer:

I’ve lost two of my siblings to suicide, and my dad was never phased by it. I’ve told him before that I was going to need a couple things mailed and even while hinting heavily about what they were, he said find someone else whose got time. I was in the hospital for attempted suicide and he told me I was a coward when I got the chance to call him.

I know what its like having a parent who shows no signs of caring. I get what that does to someone and it gives you the impression that theres nobody out there whose going to care if the person themselves responsible for you being here doesn’t. But that doesn’t mean nobody else is here to listen and help.

Sure, a friend or someone you’ve never spoken to before on the internet isn’t the same as acceptance and support from a parent. I understand that and don’t think my words mean nearly as much as it would if your mom was there for you. But I sincerely care. I don’t know who you are, I don’t know your URL. I have no idea if I’ve been the one whose answered one of your asks for help before. I’m here though, and if you need somebody it’s a promise that I’ll offer the best support I can.

I’m sorry things are so hard for you right now and not going the way you want them too. That’s frustrating and I can understand not thinking well of yourself when you’re struggling with that and suicidal thoughts. Nobody can guarantee it’s going to get fixed but its not better for everyone if you commit suicide.

- Brian

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Anonymous Asked: "It's weird, I was actually looking forward to my future for once, I was happy and within five minutes that happiness got destroyed and now I'm writing my letters (one for each important person in my life) and with each one complete I feel more sure that this is the right choice for everyone. Within the next 20 days I'm gone. This is my letter to you all because you was helpful, so helpful. Thank you."

Answer:

Please reconsider this. I know that feeling of being perfectly okay, even hopeful for whatever is in your future, and within mere minutes it all falls apart. I’ve wrote letters. I’ve picked dates. I’ve planned it out and told myself its the right choice for everyone, but its not.

There are so many people who care about you and need you. I know that gets hard to see after you’ve reached a certain point, but I promise you its true. There’s so many things worth staying here for. People. Places. Experiences. They’re not all going to be good, but they aren’t all going to be bad either. 

Talk to someone if you can. Anyone whose going to listen. Even if its someone you barely know. If they’re going to listen talk to them about what’s going on. You can message my personal if that’d help at all just know that people care, and I care, and this might seem like its the right choice now but it’s not, and it’s going to change. Even if its takes time and waiting it out.

- Brian

Anonymous Asked: "Why isn't this blog as active as it used to be? :("

Answer:

A few reasons. One of them being our admins either don’t have enough time, aren’t sure how to respond, or are struggling with their own personal problems and just can’t provide the best help possible. I know that may sound like its just an excuse, but sometimes asks are a lot harder to answer when you’re not well yourself. With school ending soon for some of us too its a bit harder to find the time to answer.

Another reason is we just don’t have many asks at the moment. Other than this one, we only have about ten asks. We try to get back as soon as we can though and I know I’ve been lacking in answers, which I apologize for.

- Brian

Anonymous Asked: "I was just about to commit today. My boyfriend said that I don't show that I'm trying to get better and it set me off. If I wasn't fighting as hard as I could, I would not be here right now. It made me feel like everything I'm doing is for nothing. I feel like I'm too much for him and he should just leave me because I'm not good enough but he refuses because he loves me and he wants to help me get better, even if I don't believe I ever will. I want to for him but I just don't see it happening."

Answer:

I’m very sorry that what he said made you feel that way because it’s not true at all.  What you’re doing is NOT for nothing and you even said it yourself:  if you weren’t fighting your hardest, you wouldn’t still be here.  You’re still here and you have your strength and yourself to thank for that.  That in itself is a great accomplishment.

I know it’s hard to believe that someone would want to stick with you when you are living with so much self-hate, but you’ve gotta try to believe your boyfriend when he tells you that he loves you and wants to be with you.  He wouldn’t be telling you that AND proving it if it wasn’t true.   You are worth loving and staying with even at your worst, I promise.

Keep doing what you’re doing.  Keep fighting your hardest.  Get yourself additional professional help and don’t ever be afraid to vent your feelings to someone you trust.  You have already shown that you have more than enough strength to continue this battle and ultimately win so don’t doubt yourself.  You can and will recover if you keep fighting.

- Morgan

Anonymous Asked: "uhm d-eathlysorrows left a post talking about either leaving or ccommitting suicide and i am so scared please someone help"

Answer:

Please send some kind messages. They really help.

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Anonymous Asked: "hi dude, its my first time in your tumblr and I have just read some interested advices... I am from Uruguay, male, 19 years... I am gay but no one knows it. I have a simple life, with friends, both of my parents and good marks at university. I dont want things to end, my life is quite good but I think I need to come out of the closet. Its hard, really really hard... Hope you can give me some advice."

Answer:

Take your time with it, and come out to the people you’re closest to who will be accepting of it first.

You can plan out what you want to say, whether it be a long talk with them or just simply saying it up front. Whichever is more comfortable for you. Some people find it easier to just say it instead of trying to hint at it and letting the other person figure it out. Don’t start to stress yourself out and panic if they don’t say anything right away. It’s not always easy for people to have a reaction right away, even if they’re completely accepting of the situation.

Once you’ve told the first few people it’ll get a bit easier to tell the rest. If you’re unsure of what to say you can ask the people you’ve already told for suggestions too. 

Remember that you don’t have to tell anyone you don’t want to and that’s perfectly fine. It’s not easy to come out about this sort of thing and its going to be hard at first.

If anyone has gone through this with their family/friends any extra advice would be appreciated to.

- Brian

Anonymous Asked: "Can you help explain the correlation between depression and anorexia? I have both and it's hard to explain to my friends."

Answer:

Anorexia and depression share a close relationship for a number of reasons. One of them can be symptoms. Both disorders show change in appetite, possible mood swings, loss of interest, and thinking of ones self as worthless. This also correlates with how the form of one disorder is sometimes caused by the other. If you’re already feeling these symptoms because you have depression, its easier and more likely you’ll develop anorexia because you’re already showing some of the behaviors (or vice versa.)

WebMD (x) and CCED (x) both have articles that may be a bit more helpful in further explaining the relationship between the two.

- Brian

Anonymous Asked: "I've been going to my therapist for about 2 months now, and my depression is getting worse and worse as I'm sinking deeper and deeper. I don't tell my therapist them exact words but she doesn't take my depression seriously. She just thinks its 'low mood' I know thats another terms but its like she dumbs down my depression."

Answer:

Do you think you can talk to whoever takes you to your sessions and find a different therapist? If you’re spending your sessions with someone whose not trying to understand your thoughts and give a good input its not going to be helpful in the over all idea of things. Especially if they’re only making things worse because they don’t see the seriousness in what you’re struggling with. I’d really recommend talking to whoever referred you to your current therapist and ask if they could give you suggestions on a few other places to try.

- Brian

Anonymous Asked: "Since December last year I've had constant suicidal thoughts to the point where I think more in depth about how and when and even have got tablets ready to overdose on. But because its not literally everyday I don't think I'm much harm to myself. I see a therapist but if I told her she'd have to tell my mum and I don't want her to know:/ I really don't know what to do because I'm struggling with my depression more as well."

Answer:

If it gets worse, please tell your therapist. You’re not necessarily a big threat to yourself right now but if you start thinking about it more frequently that’s important and worth mentioning to someone. She’s there to help you work towards making progress and over coming the things you’re struggling with. Often times you can also work out something where they’ll still tell one of your parents but keep as much as they can private between the two of you. 

- Brian

Anonymous Asked: "My therapist wants me to start taking Prozac but I don't want to. I may be depressed and feel that everything is pointless, but I'm stable at least, I can remember that my boyfriend needs me and that stops me from committing. If I start taking the Prozac, I feel like I'll slip off the edge and forget why I'm not committing. I want to get better for my boyfriend but the first couple of weeks will give me hell if I take them and I don't think I can survive that. [to be continued...]"

Answer:

Have you talked to your therapist about being uncomfortable starting Prozac? You know what’s best for yourself and if you think you wouldn’t react well to being on it that’s something important to bring to their attention. Some people don’t like being put on anti-depressants because it’s going to have an effect on your behavior/feelings and that’s completely okay. 

I’d just suggest trying to talk about it and see if you two can come to a better agreement that will still help you work towards making progress on getting better but not make you do something you aren’t comfortable with yet.

- Brian

Things to remember

bzedan:

• You don’t owe anything to the people who created you by smashing cells together.
• A bully is a bully and emotional mistreatment is abuse.
• Don’t let a dictionary definition of what “family” is guilt you.
• Love those who love you and are worthy of your love.

I mean seriously, if hearing someone’s voice for 30 seconds auto-triggers nausea and baseless guilt, then you have every right to question why they should exist in your life.

I choose to not respond.

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